today is the first day aly’s last year of high school. and – if no one in my family changes their mind – it’s also the first day of our family’s last year of traditional school. i’m finding dealing with both has me feeling all kerfuffle-y. it hasn’t been all that long since chan went through his last year of high school and i still remember how raw it was. how all year long the coming change felt so close to the surface. i’m trying to not protect myself from those feelings this year. i want to fully experience this whole year with aly (appropriately, of course, i have no plans to go to prom). i don’t want to fall into a been there done that attitude, either. this is her experience and while it will have its similarities to chan’s it won’t be the same at all.
she and michael were in the states this summer and she toured college campuses. she even found one she wants to apply to. she also wants to apply to a college in japan. so much change to come. so little time to savor and no way to stop the clock. i wouldn’t really want to. she’s gonna have an awesome year.
along with her last year of school is our family’s decision to not send sam back to school this year. over the past few years it has become more and more apparent that traditional school is not the best for sam. we’re taking the road less traveled (so to speak). he’ll come out of it with a high school certification and he won’t be shutting any doors he might want to walk through in the future, but for his well being – and the well being of our family – this is the best path we can find. we are very thankful that the school will allow him to audit drama this year and that they have left the door open should he decide the classroom really is where he wants to be. it’s scary for me. i’m a rule follower and this isn’t how high school is supposed to be done. (this is a little funny because we homeschooled our oldest two for several years, and that’s not how elementary school is supposed to be done. even better? it was my choice to do it.) i also think it’s good that we live abroad as we are making this decision. not that there aren’t plenty of people who support homeschooling in the states (i think that’s what you would consider what we are doing). at this age it feels like it’s more sam schooling with a some parental oversight. many of the non-american westerners around us have been very encouraging of our decision. they’ve told us it’s not uncommon in their countries for how a kid is educated to change at this age. it seems only us americans have a one size fits all attitude when it comes to education.
so big changes ahead for us and i’m just holding on to the knowledge that we’ll come out okay on the other side of all this.